Um…Not All Females Are Women
Recently, my lovely friend Rachel Thompson received a comment on her Twitter in reply to an article she shared: Can Anyone Name 5 Female Directors Besides Ava DuVernay? The commenter stated that he’s a Christian (not sure what THAT has to do with the subject…), and insisted that “female director” is wrong; it should be “woman director,” because using “female” instead of “woman” is “offensive and too feminist.”
From a grammatical standpoint (and I AM a Grammar Goddess; even own the website…don’t look for it, it’s not live yet…), female director is perfectly fine. Better, in fact, than “woman” in this instance because “female” is an adjective describing a category of director. Don’t know who he thinks it’s offending, and it’s not “too feminist.” The term “woman” would be kind of sexist from a man, because its literal definition is not only distinguishing her sex (adult FEMALE human being), it also categorizes her as a FEMALE (as opposed to, you know, a male…). And “female” is an inclusive term – any female, any age. “Woman” is an exclusive term because not all females are women.
It’s instinct for me to use “female” instead of “woman” in many circumstances, since I work in Law Enforcement. For instance, I’m referred to as “white female,” not “white woman.” (A man would be treated the same way: as a “white male” instead of “white man.”) And “female” just flows off the tongue a whole lot smoother than “woman” when used as an adjective.
If you’re addressing someone directly (a noun), you should probably say “woman” instead of “female.” (Of course, you might get slapped for calling her a generic, sexually divisive term instead of her name.) I decided to research the use of “female” vs “woman” and discovered that it’s quite a popular subject. I was surprised (perhaps I shouldn’t have been) to discover an overwhelming number of articles addressing this topic – woman vs female.
Women vs. Female Definitions
Here’s what Merriam-Webster, the Oxford English Dictionary (for variety) and Roget’s Thesaurus have to say about female vs woman:
Merriam-Webster, female:
- of or relating to the sex that can produce young or lay eggs;
- characteristic of girls or women;
- having members who are all girls or women
Merriam-Webster, woman:
- an adult female human being;
- a woman who has a specific job or position;
- distinctly feminine nature;
- women considered as a group
Oxford English Dictionary, female:
- a person of the sex that can bear offspring;
- a woman or a girl;
- an individual of this sex (contrasted with male);
- a female animal (including the human being considered as an animal species);
- female individuals or the female sex considered generally or collectively.
Oxford English Dictionary, woman:
- referring to an adult female human being;
- the counterpart of man;
- the female members of a family, household, or other group, etc., womenfolk;
- with specific reference to age: a female person who has reached adulthood, esp. in legal contexts;
- a female person who is considered mature
Roget’s Thesaurus, female (adj., having the qualities or characteristics of a woman):
- feminine, fecund, womanish, womanly, effeminate, muliebrous (I found a new favorite word)
Roget’s Thesaurus, woman (n., female human):
- daughter, girl, mother, she, aunt, grandmother, matron, spouse
As I was finishing up on this post, Rachel (because she knew I was addressing this topic in a post) forwarded to me the link for this story: Why We Need to Reclaim the Word “Female” . While reading it, I began hearing strains of The Twilight Zone theme, because it seemed as if author Jay Newton-Small had been peering over my shoulder. We make some of the same points regarding the grammatically correct usage of woman/women and female, and reference some of the same sources (Oxford English Dictionary). Something I discovered in my research, that Ms. Newton-Small also addresses: it appears that “the innate misogyny of slang” is at least partially to blame for the vilification of “female” as an acceptably descriptive term.
One of my favorite authors, J.R. Ward, in her Black Dagger Brotherhood series, refers to women as “female” and men as “male.” This could be because most of her characters are vampires, or it could be a conscious effort to bring “female” and “male” back into the accepted lexicon of terminology.
So, Is it Sexist To Refer to Women as Female?
Then there’s using the word girl instead of woman… Gone Girl, 2 Broke Girls, New Girl, Girls, Supergirl (we have Superman…why not Superwoman?)… girl next door, girlfriend … I could go on ad nauseam, but I think you get the picture.
My conclusion? There are way too many sensitive people out there who don’t have enough to do. As for me, I’ll continue to use female as an adjective instead of woman when describing a noun (female director, female firefighter, etc.). Call it my stubborn personality, call it my instinctive, knee-jerk dislike of anything that remotely resembles “political correctness.”
I’m a female…a female grammarian, a female writer, a female editor, a female friend…many things female…and take no issue with being addressed as “female” instead of woman. I guess I’m just an insensitive feminist woman. And proud of it.
If you happen to be interested in the multitude of articles I read while researching this topic, here’s a list:
- 6 Reasons You Should Stop Referring to Women as “Females” Right Now
- Grammar Girl: Woman Versus Female. Which is the Proper Adjective?
- On Language: Woman vs. Female
- “Female” or “Woman”?
- Woman Doctors, Woman Writers…Is Using ‘Woman’ as an Adjective Demeaning?
- Why there are too many women doctors, women MPs, and women bosses
- Who You Calling a Female?
- Female Troubles: “Female” vs. “Woman”
- Why It’s Not Sexist To Call Women “Girls”
- Should We Stop Saying ‘Female Filmmaker’?
- Why do some people consider it offensive to address a woman as ‘female’?
Wendy is a writer who holds degrees from three different universities, including MA and MFA in Creative Writing from Wilkes University. Her debut novel, SERPENT ON A CROSS, which was published October 30, 2012, by Northampton House Press as an ebook, was re-released digitally and in print – with new content -by Booktrope, in August 2014.
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Very thoughtful piece, Wendy. I live in the Forever Correctful world, too, and try very hard to use the right word for the right descriptor. Woman and female are ones I have struggled with. I have to go along with your line of thinking and rationale here–female just works for me in most cases. Of course there are exceptions and I pay homage to them by using the word woman. But mostly, it’s female.
I could write a whole ‘nother blog on the use of the world girl. Where I live, it’s perfectly acceptable slang for a female of any age. But take it out of neighborhood and it becomes an insensitive insult.
So, Miss Wendy, you just go, girl, and keep on explaining the why.
Dori,
Thank you so much for your comment & support. 🙂
I love this, Wendy. It was super interesting and informative. I will certainly carry forward your grammar lesson and make sure I refer to women like Penny Marshall and Amy Heckerling as female directors unless one or both requests otherwise. I think you missed (or ignored) one thing, though. Why is a man trying to correct Rachel like that? I might understand if he were doing it as a matter of grammar, but as a man, I would never try to tell a woman that “female” or “woman” is sexist in a particular context. In fact, I would imagine doing so would be offensive to the female writers I know.
Drew,
I, also, wonder why a man would be offended by something that doesn’t have anything to do with men (other than the “male” part of feMALE). I guess some people don’t have anything better to do than troll the Internet looking for molehills to build into mountains. 😉
Wendy
What an interesting article. We live in a society where everything has to be in order and political correct. I can’t tolerate that, what difference does it make to be called female or woman? I’m not sure what the Christian MAN purpose was to bring something like this to light.
Thank you Wendy for sharing your wisdom and perspective about this topic. Can I say how scary it makes me feel that there are women out there who feel offended by the female vs woman debate?
This is the first time I’ve heard anyone say the word “female” is too feminist. What? How can that be? “Female” is a word we all grow up with; we learn it in school at a very young age. We use it when we learn to speak new languages. And as you point out, not all females are women. I simply don’t understand how anyone would take the time to write a negative comment about something like that. A troll for sure.
I’m an editor and I’ve always found the double noun formation (eg, woman director) slightly jarring, purely from a syntax perspective. I’ve always preferred the adjective noun ‘female director’ usage.